The Dagny Foundation — Love shows up

Loveshows up.

We can't take a family's pain away. We can help carry it.

The Dagny Foundation gives direct financial support to families navigating infant crisis and infant loss.

Dagny Elizabeth Thompson.
Dagny Elizabeth Thompson with her mom, Elizabeth.

Our daughter

Dagny was born on March 6, 2020. She was healthy and vibrant and beautiful. She had an expressive face, and we loved capturing her many expressions.

As a first-time mom, I had been told that the first two weeks of breastfeeding are the hardest. So I didn't really know whether what we were seeing was normal, or whether Dagny wasn't eating enough.

At twelve days old we took her to a normally scheduled pediatrician appointment and I shared my concerns. The doctor was unconcerned. He told us she looked healthy, that everything looked good, but that I should pump so we could get a better sense of how much she was eating. If we couldn't get her to take two ounces that afternoon, maybe we should bring her into the hospital in case she needed IV fluids.

She took an ounce and a half. We were torn over whether to bring her in. We decided to take her to the hospital, where once again we were reassured that she was feisty, that she was healthy. We were told they were just going to top her off with fluids and we would be home in a couple of hours.

A couple of hours later the situation looked entirely different. She was crashing. She was put on life support and we had no idea what was going on. Over the course of the night, things got worse. In the morning we were told she had been put on heart-lung bypass. We were informed that all her organs had failed and we needed to say goodbye.

She was fourteen days old.

We walked out of the hospital with nothing but a validated parking ticket.

Dagny.
Chris and Dagny.

What love shows up means

Dagny died at the height of the COVID pandemic. We were told that funerals were not essential. In the state where we live we weren't permitted to hold one at all, so we drove out of state to hold her funeral. Many of our friends and family, fearful of COVID, didn't dare come.

But some people showed up. A church lined the building with signs and sang as we pulled into the parking lot.

There is nothing we can do to take away a family's pain. But we can help carry the burden. That is what love shows up means.

Two years later, our identical twin daughters were born prematurely, in the second trimester. They were on maximal life support for every organ system. We were told it was unlikely they would survive. They spent 93 days in the NICU more than an hour from home, while we cared for a fifteen-month-old and were, quite frankly, still grieving Dagny.

So we committed to doing all we could to help families carry these staggering burdens.

What we do

We provide direct financial support to families navigating infant crisis and infant loss.

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  • Mortgages
  • Rent payments
  • Medical bills
  • Funeral expenses
  • Living expenses

Who we help

Families navigating infant crisis and infant loss, including live births from 26 weeks gestation through one year old.

The Dagny Foundation Community Open

Monday
October 5

Willowbend Country Club
Mashpee, Cape Cod

Our annual fundraiser. A day of golf on Cape Cod that funds the support we give families through the year.

The field is full for this year, but there is still room to show up. Sponsor a hole, back the day as a business, or contribute to the auction.

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Three ways to show up

Ask for help

For families navigating infant crisis or infant loss.

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Give

Donations fund the support we give to families.

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Sponsor the Open

Sponsor a hole or back the day as a business.

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